How to love · Surprise· Purist
How to love a Purist when you're a surprise to them
Loving a Purist as a Surprise is its own discipline. You don't need much, but it has to be right. The work is letting that wiring be a real thing in your relationship — not a quirk you tolerate, and not a problem to fix.
What lands
They feel loved when…
- You stop trying to explain why this works and let it work.
- You meet the Purist at the conclusion, not the proof.
- You leave the weirdness alone instead of analyzing it.
- You notice when you both arrived at the same place and just nod.
- You protect what you and the Purist have from people who want to make it make sense.
What misses
They feel unseen when…
- You demand the Purist justify how they got there.
- You translate the relationship to outsiders in a way that flattens it.
- You start treating the magic like a checklist.
What they wish you knew
What they wish more people understood: their wiring isn't a preference, it's how they take in information. When you ask them to perceive the world differently, you're asking them to be a different person.
Try this with them tonight
Tonight, ask them what they noticed that you missed. Don't argue with the answer. Just let them tell you, and let it sit.
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