Pair dynamic
Tactilist+Purist
= Stretch
Wired in opposite directions. The friction is the feature — when you both lean in.
Under stress
When a Tactilist is exhausted, they become a Purist they don’t love. Worth knowing on bad days.
The dynamic
The Direction Mismatch
One of you filters for exactly enough, the other feels for how a thing feels, and your nervous systems are tuned in opposite directions. The friction shows up as "you always" / "you never" sentences neither of you means.
Note: this entry is the templated default. The full hand-written version is on the content roadmap. (tactilist—purist translation layer)
The 30-second move
This week, trade modes for one shared thing. They pick the activity at their tempo; you bring full attention without trying to nudge it. Switch the next time. The point isn't compromise — it's letting yourself be in the other one's setting long enough to notice what they get from it.
One-pagers